June 4

Who you are

You are hard to flatter and harder to rush. When two people you love are in the wrong with each other, you will not pick the one you like more, and that costs you. Family disputes come to you. So do arguments at work about who did what. You listen to both accounts and then say the unpopular sentence in the middle.

Conflict does not frighten you the way it frightens most people. A raised voice is just information. You can sit through a difficult meeting without your stomach turning over, and because of that you often end up carrying conversations other people have been avoiding for months. You are also quick with worth: what a job pays, what a favour costs, what an apology is missing.

Your gifts

• Fairness without sentiment. You can rule against a friend and still be their friend on Monday.
• Steadiness in an argument. You stay in the room when the temperature rises and other people leave.
• A quick sense of worth. You know what things and favours are actually costing, usually before anyone else does.

Your shadow

Judgment offered where it was not wanted turns into coldness. Someone comes to you shaking and you give them a verdict when they needed twenty minutes of company first. You can also mistake being right for being finished, delivering the accurate sentence and walking off while the other person sits with it. Fairness is not the same as kindness, and you know which one you find easier.

Your soul work

Judge less and weigh more. Your work is telling people the truth in a way they can survive hearing, which means asking first whether they want the verdict or the company. Keep the honesty. Slow the delivery down. A fair person who is also gentle is rare enough to be worth becoming.

Days you get along with

Your sign

The third sign carries the gift of curiosity and the burden of its own quickness. Gemini is the zodiac learning to speak, and learning to land.

Someone else

Look up another birthday

Check a friend's day, or your partner's, and send it to them.