March 19

Who you are

You see people as they could be. This is your best quality and the source of most of your disappointments. A friend at their worst still registers with you as somebody temporarily off course, and you keep addressing the better version until, sometimes, it turns up. Pisces gives you that sight. Neptune makes it extremely difficult to switch off.

Hard edges arrive late for you. Deadlines, verdicts, the moment a thing has to be one way and not another, all of it feels like a loss of something. You are comfortable while a plan is still forming and everything remains possible. The trouble is that everything remains possible right up until it does not, and by then somebody else has decided.

Your gifts

• Sight without judgment. You see the potential in a person before they have shown any of it.
• Comfort with the unresolved. You can hold an open question for a long time without panicking.
• Imagination. You picture things that do not exist yet, in enough detail to describe them.

Your shadow

Seeing potential everywhere means you sometimes love a version of a person who has never once turned up. You forgive the actual behaviour because you can see what caused it. Then you are angry that nothing changed, though you never asked plainly for it to. Meanwhile your own plans stay imagined, safe from the test of being tried in public.

Your soul work

Stay soft in how you see and get hard about what you decide. Name one thing plainly this month, with a date and a consequence attached to it. You can go on being kind to people. Just stop mistaking what they might become for what they are doing.

Days you get along with

Your sign

The twelfth sign swims in both directions at once: boundless feeling, porous edges. Pisces carries the ocean, and the lesson of the riverbank.

Someone else

Look up another birthday

Check a friend's day, or your partner's, and send it to them.