February 13

Who you are

You can finish things, and it has earned you a reputation for coldness that does not match what is going on inside you. Most people cannot end anything. You see the trouble coming while it is still a rumour, and you know the only real defence is a deliberate loss: this project stopped, this habit dropped, this arrangement ended on purpose, in daylight, before it takes everything with it.

You have Saturn's discipline to hold a line once you have drawn it, and Uranus in the nerve that draws it early, when nobody else has noticed anything wrong and everybody thinks you are overreacting. Air lets you explain the reasoning clearly, though explaining rarely softens it. Years later the same people tell the story as though the decision had been obvious. It was obvious only to you.

Your gifts

• You see it coming. You register trouble at the rumour stage, well before the evidence is polite enough to argue with.
• Clean endings. You can finish something properly instead of letting it rot where it stands.
• Costly courage. You accept being called harsh when the alternative is losing everything.

Your shadow

Ending things can become a reflex you use for relief. You start finishing what was never in danger and call it foresight when it is really a fear of being trapped. You leave first so that nobody can leave you. Watch too for the pride of the survivor, the one who made the hard call and now stands alone with a very good view.

Your soul work

Not every difficulty is a disaster. Some of what you would end is only asking to be looked after, and staying through ordinary trouble is the courage you have never practised. Before you finish something living, say out loud what you think you are protecting, and let one person talk you slowly through it.

Days you get along with

Your sign

The eleventh sign pours water it does not drink: vision for the many, distance from the near. Aquarius carries the future, and the lesson of the present person.

Someone else

Look up another birthday

Check a friend's day, or your partner's, and send it to them.