January 15

Who you are

You do not perform your inner life. Ask how you are and you will answer accurately and briefly, then ask about them. It is not evasion. It is a genuine belief that most of what happens inside you is nobody's business until you decide otherwise. People know there is far more to you than they have been shown, and it makes them lean in rather than away.

The result is that you have reserves. Difficulties that would empty another person out find something in you still holding, because you never spent it on being understood. You have gone through entire crises without most of your circle noticing anything. This is a real strength and it carries a real cost, and you have known about both since you were young.

Your gifts

• Deep reserves. You have something left in the weeks that leave everyone around you empty.
• Discretion. You do not trade in other people's business or your own.
• Composure. You can be in serious difficulty and still be useful to somebody else.

Your shadow

Privacy hardens into concealment. You withhold ordinary information out of habit, so the people closest to you stay permanently one layer behind your actual life, and they feel it as a distance they cannot name. You get through the crisis alone and then quietly resent that no one came. Nobody came because you took considerable care to make sure they could not tell.

Your soul work

Your work is selective disclosure, not confession. Choose two people and tell them the true version while it is still happening, not afterward once it is safely resolved. Being known by a few is not the same as being exposed, and you have been treating them as the same thing.

Days you get along with

Your sign

The tenth sign is the mountain goat with a fish tail: ambition with depth beneath it. Capricorn carries mastery, and the lesson of what summits are for.

Someone else

Look up another birthday

Check a friend's day, or your partner's, and send it to them.