March 6

Who you are

You do not rush anyone. Not a nervous colleague, not a child, not a friend halfway through a sentence they have been carrying for a week. You wait, and something in the waiting gives people room to be honest. Pisces makes you soft about other people's timing. Neptune makes you comfortable in the part of a conversation where nothing has been decided.

Hardness in others does not offend you much. You assume there is a reason and you are usually willing to stay around long enough to find out what it is. This makes you the one difficult relatives get on with, the friend who keeps a friendship alive through somebody's worst decade. It costs you time you never account for, and you would do it again.

Your gifts

• Unhurried judgment. You let a first impression sit for a month before you trust it.
• Softness without weakness. You can be kind to someone and still not do what they want.
• Tolerance for the unfinished. You are comfortable with a problem that has no solution yet.

Your shadow

Patience with no end date is avoidance wearing better clothes. You wait for someone to change, for a job to improve, for a situation to resolve itself, and years go by that you do not get back. Gentleness stops you naming the moment when waiting became the problem. The people around you adjust to it and stop expecting anything to change.

Your soul work

Set an end to the waiting. Choose a date, tell somebody about it, and act when it arrives whether or not the situation has improved. Patience is a real gift and yours is unusual. It only counts as a gift when there is something at the end of it.

Days you get along with

Your sign

The twelfth sign swims in both directions at once: boundless feeling, porous edges. Pisces carries the ocean, and the lesson of the riverbank.

Someone else

Look up another birthday

Check a friend's day, or your partner's, and send it to them.